As l was at home, l got a call from one of the single mothers we had been reaching out to in the community. I was looking out for her because earlier that week I helped her file an order of protection against her husband. As I answered the phone, I quickly realized that something was off. A man answered the phone. It was her husband. He tells me not to talk to his wife anymore. He then passes the phone to her. She confirms that she no longer needs my help.
As a Pastor, I often meet people in very dier situations. Women in abusive relationships, marriages on the edge, suicidal children and so on.
Most people are not willing to change their life because they do not like to get out of their comfort zone. Many times people have habits or friendships that are toxic but are not willing to leave because of being accustomed to it.
We cannot pursue a better life or marriage without letting go of the things that caused the current life we have. We must seek to change things, seek to get out of our comfort zone. John Maxwell put it very well. He says,” if we’re growing, we’re always going to be out of our comfort zone”.
When I was longer, I hated change. As I matured and experienced life, I realized that I am either growing or dying. Nature never stagnates. It has proven that if a mind no longer pushes itself its left to die. Harvard health says that in order to keep your mind sharp you must keep learning, you must keep developing.
Sadly, people still do not want to make the vital choices to better their life. The bible says in Jerimiah 29:11, ” for I know the plans I have for you says the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and future”. God wants better for us as well; he wants to work in our life for his glory and our own good.
Nothing saddens me more than to see people who desperately need Jesus to move in their life, but are not willing to pursue him. It is only in pain and heartbreak that they open their ears to the voice of God.
I still remember those calls, ”my child is suicidal, my life is in danger, my child has been taken away, my child is going to die”.
We live in a broken and fractured creation, in which we desperately need to pursue God’s
direction and plan for our life. Let us not wait for the pain to arrive before we turn our eyes to Jesus, the author, and perfecter of our faith.