In high school and even as a working adult my peers would often try to persuade me to lose my virginity. Many times they ridiculed me for waiting until marriage.
In this post I want to adress the lies that people believe about sex. I will also add statistics to prove everything I'm saying.
1st Lie #. You would not buy a car without test-driving it first would you?
Truth. How hallow can you be to compare a metal tin machine with the complications and emotional drama that is another human being! The other person’s feelings do matter. No one walks away untainted or emotionally vacant after each Sexual encounter. Just ask the 80% of people who regret not waiting. In every sexual experience, the other person does walk away with a part of who you are.
Lie # 2. Practice makes perfect
Truth Psychologists from Brigham Young University found that couples who waited after marriage were 22% higher in their relationship stability then those who did not wait. They also found that those who practiced abstinence also had 20% increase in relationship satisfaction. I personally believe that practice does make perfect, so have all the SEX you want, after marriage!
Lie # 3. Everyone is doing it
Truth. Www.5tatisticbrain.com 54% High school teens are still Virgins. 82% of teens desire to have one partner, and 80% of girls who have had sex intercourse but said they wish they had waited
Lie # 4. How can something that feels so good be so wrong
Truth. Let us not talk about putting yourself at higher risk of getting STDs, or unwanted pregnancies, or being assaulted. Hello! I want to bring attention to the old school double stander. Women are looked down on, and men are admired when it comes to having frequent partners. Hello!
Psychology today says this,
”As reviewed by Garcia (from Birmingham University)and his co-authors, there are plenty. For one, there’s the discomfort factor. Despite the flood of media messages that hookups are okay, if not desirable, people may still feel that they’ve done something that violates their own internal standards. Feeling perhaps pressured to get involved because "everyone else is," they may develop performance anxiety, ironically setting the stage for future sexual dysfunction. Other common reactions include regret, disappointment, confusion, embarrassment, guilt, and low self-esteem, although other individuals certainly report feeling proud, nervous, excited, and desirable or wanted. (Feelings tended to be more positive before and during a hookup, and more negative afterward)"
Multiple studies have shown that psychological distress goes up with the more hookups a person has. If that does not open your eyes then this will. I feel there is something inherently wrong with the logic of ”since it feels good it must be right”. That same logic justifies statutory rape or worst child prostitution. Hello!
Lie # 5. Only religious people have and issue with SEX before marriage
Truth. Www.5tatisticbrain.com says,
38% Say they don’t want to get pregnant 34% waiting for that one special person 33%Fear of getting a Sexually transmitted disease 23% want to focus on education 18% want to save themselves from emotional regret, fear, anger, and betrayal
As you can see if you want a happier and more satisfying marriage experience, you will have better odds if you wait. What I find so interesting is how God new all this since the beginning. That's why God said, SEX is to be enjoyed in the context of marriage. DON'T BELIEVE THE LIES! It is worth the wait!